Monthly Archives: April 2008

missing midwifery

When I found out I was expecting this time, I thought I’d probably have to go to a traditional obstetrics practice; my first birth was premature, and was likely caused by my bicornuate uterus. I figured it would be ok if I chose a women-run practice, that the gaps between it and midwifery care would not be so great. I was wrong.

The loaded language of the modern medical pregnancy is enough to make a woman believe that she is incapable of figuring out how to birth a baby. Except that the body is designed to do just that, before there were ultrasound machines, or quad screens, or obstetrics.

I have felt like mentioning – ok, screaming – this as of late. Instead of being asked to consider different treatments, instead of conversations where the assumption is that the mother knows and is capable of knowing about her body and the process of pregnancy and childbirth, the mother is told what to do. It’s not sitting well.

My nurse knows nothing about vegetarian diets, and actually asked me if I’m getting enough protein. Sigh. I never had these issues with the midwifery practice – they understood that a veggie diet is not a risk for healthy fetal development, and gave me props for my hematocrit levels at the start and the 28 week point.

The other part has been more than a little annoying. From the perspective of the practitioner, I have a name: high risk. I get this name based on nothing in my chart, other than my birthdate. I’m wondering how many women go through this without knowing that they own  the birth. They know what to do, they can trust their instincts, but they would do well with some knowledgeable support. What if more women knew about their bodies, the glorious power of them, their ebb and flow? What if this self-knowledge were as common as knowing one’s shoe size? Midwifes understand the power this knowledge gives; obstetric practices would do well to take heed.

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observations, 6w6d

This is not going to become an exclusively gestational blog, I SWEAR, but I thought it would be a good place to get some notes down and hopefully entertain all three of you. Here’s how it’s going.

Today I weighed in at 145 dripping wet.

I have to lay down for hours at a time, which was ok when the weather was 10 degrees colder than normal. It leaves me wistful now, with the sun arcing all day over the roof, beckoning me as if I had energy. Seriously, I don’t know how I would work. My focus is shot.

I have made friends with the beautiful young women at both the maternity clothes store and at the maternity consignment shop. They’re so young and positive, I love them.

Normal pants are now too uncomfortable, and so I am in panel pant stage. (Ben thinks these are the funniest things ever. “Why is there a shirt in your pants? Bwaaahahahaha!”) Yes, at less than 2 months. It seems as though my body had a very clear memory of being 192 lbs, and wants to be ready for it as soon as possible. It also is encouraging me to get there, with cravings for potatoes and bread products of all kinds.

On the topic of cravings: last time, I really didn’t have any, but now it is a little crazy. I’m finding myself overcome with longing for one food or another each day. Monday, it was veggie lettuce wraps from PF Changs. Tuesday, it was homefries. Yesterday, huevos rancheros. Today, Piecora’s New York Style pizza is calling me. At 8am.

H has strict instructions from me and Mrs. Charles to keep his gaze higher up, on the earrings, as the weight of a lower glance physically hurts. On a related topic, I can also report the state of maternity support garments has not improved since my last go round.

Not even close to sleeping through the night, for some reason I have moments of lucidity around 6am, which dissipate.

Next week brings an ultrasound to see where little one has chosen to set up camp, and go through how many different vitamins I really need to take. My pill count is currently at 14 (!) including all sorts of supplements.

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Feministe: Why Calling Out Misogyny Matters

Writing what has been gnawing at me for months, Feministe blogger zuzu  expresses it perfectly.  Please read “Why calling out misogyny matters“.

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